You wouldn't know how much you love a person until something happens.
I've heard that my cousin is going to have a great celebration for his 1 month old daughter tomorrow and invite all the relatives from my mum's side. Sad thing here is, no relatives from our side will be attending because of grandma, who has been away since my cousin's wife gave birth to the child, is still staying in Foshan, which is another city next to Guangzhou. Other relatives don't feel like coming as grandma doesn't seem to care that much. I know everything is not getting solved in a long time. But come on people, it's not right to bring up family dispute to a newborn baby, she has nothing to do with the adult world...As fattie from oversea has told mum about it, even my mum was mad at them. But at the same time, grandma is doing that for a reason, in other words, she is biased against someone in that family. Mum is only worried about grandma's ignorance will make relatives hate her, especially to the family who lives in Zhuhai, the only one who is able to take care of her, and now, she's not attending her own grandson's daughter's celebration. Mind telling you guys who ain't Chinese, celebrating for a 1 month born child is one of the significant events in the Chinese culture.
I can finally see my niece via webcam. She has big eyes like me. I even saw her sucking her fingers and drinking milk while looking at the webcam as if she could tell who we are. My mum and I waved at her, then her eyes trickily rolled. My cousin has now become a dad, but it's still so hard for me to imagine that he is one, since my memories are still remained in the age when I went to his house playing a lot of computer games, and he was the one that once got me addicted to games when I was quite young. Also when he and grandpa took me to catch cicada on the tree during summer, now grandpa has passed away for close to five years, and my cousin is married and has a child. Thinking about these changes brings me with this sentimental feeling yet I know at the very least, I still love them no matter where they are, who they have become and regardless how distant we live afar from each other.
Mum kept telling uncle not to get angry at grandma's irrationality as she was the reason caused everyone not willing to attend the celebration. Our family problems might be too complicated to explain here in short. But I have known this aspect since I was 12, which was the first time I came to Australia. Mum was crying while talking to my uncle, who only shed a few tears when she told him not to be mad at grandma, but took care of her as she has become quite a loner after grandpa was gone. Mum loves grandma is as much as how I love her. She always says to me, if she stays in China, she could have taken care of her the best she can. My mum is really the best child truly cares about her family among all her siblings. I am not complimenting my mum here, but fact shows she really is the one like I have described.
Likewise, le panpan's mum has been depressed because of her mum. That reminds me of my grandpa so I was close to cry when I taught him what he should do to make his mum feel better for the time being. I can relate her feeling to my mum and I, that day when we received bad news of grandpa.
Lastly....The powerfulness of love is not about how long you can be with them, but to constantly show them how much they really mean to you by taking actions when they are still there, in a limited time... So please don't leave any regrets..
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